Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Nov 2015 · Thomas Nelson · Narrated by Emerson Eggerichs

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Come discover one of the greatest secrets to a successful relationship! Love & Respect is A New York Times?best-selling marriage book making a difference with over two million copies sold! Help you and your spouse achieve a deeper level of intimacy by stopping the crazy cycle of conflict, developing better communication skills, and enjoying renewed passion.

Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It's the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find. While both men and women deserve both love and respect, in the midst of conflict the driving need for a woman is love and the driving need for a man is respect. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy.

Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Love and Respect is for anyone: those in marital crisis, the happily married, engaged couples, pastors and counselors, and small groups. This dynamic and life-changing message is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships.

In Love & Respect couples can find:

How to break down the communication code between spouses
How to handle conflict in a relationship
How to build respect for one another
How to foster a deep love for one another
How to rekindle passion for one another

Taking God’s biblical practice of marriage and applying it with practical techniques, Emerson Eggerichs shows how mutual Love and Respect can balance a marriage and encourage a successful relationship.

Pair Love & Respect?with the Love & Respect Workbook for Couples, Individuals, and Groups for an added experience and to dig deeper into your relationship and foster understanding with your partner. Love & Respect?is also available in Spanish, Amor y Respeto.

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4.7

66 reviews

Sofia T

May 23, 2025

The first word that comes to mind to describe this book is: Cringe. Just the way that it is written, the way it is condescending, the way it is full of untrue stereotypes. It is an outdated book, was it written for baby boomers? (no offence). It does have some good points though: like keeping company without necessarily talking to each other & how it can be meaningful. I also found that the things that he stereotypes that apply to women only or apply to men only were not accurate half the time or more, so I would have to either ignore it cause it just does not apply (at least not in this century) or switch it in my mind cause in my case it applies the other way around. Overall it is tue that men place more value on respect and women place more value on love. I wish he would write about how men need to respect women. My guess is that the author grew up during 1970s and feminists publically demanding respect was all the rage and now he thinks it is a given, and it is not anymore.

Monica Snyder

June 1, 2019

I found the "he needs respect/she needs love" theme was too simplistic and applied to broadly. It would have helped if Eggerichs had more clearly defined "love" and "respect" and how they differ, since they are overlapping concepts to begin with. Women also desire respect; men also desire love. I also thought many of the anecdotes to illustrate his concepts were a bit disturbing, particularly the one in which the man is abusive (throws things at his wife) and, IIRC, ends up spending some time in jail/prison, and the point of the story is how they stayed together. I think I'd rather read a book about healthy communication and boundaries.

John Reed Jr

February 19, 2019

eye opening..truth and designed for change only if we acknowledge our faults as well as our love toward/for one another🙏💪💖💯

About the author

Emerson Eggerichs, PhD, is an internationally known communication expert and author of the New York Times bestseller Love & Respect. Just as Dr. Eggerichs transformed millions of marital relationships with a biblical understanding of love and respect, he also turned these principles to one of the most important relationships of all in Mother & Son: The Respect Effect. As a communication expert, Emerson has also spoken to groups such as the NFL, NBA, PGA, US Navy SEALs and members of Congress. He was the senior pastor of Trinity Church in East Lansing, Michigan for almost twenty years. Emerson holds a PhD in child and family ecology from Michigan State University, a BA in Biblical Studies from Wheaton College, an MA in communications from Wheaton College Graduate School, and an MDiv from the University of Dubuque Theological Seminary. He and his wife Sarah have been married since 1973 and have three adult children.

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